The paradox of perfectionism: the value of sucking

Imagine you're an amateur singer about to go on stage for your first-ever performance. You're really nervous. You want to sound good. You want people to like you. If you're a perfectionist though, you can end up psyching yourself out so much wanting to sound good that your nerves get the best of you. Your voice cracks up, you can't hold a note, you sing out of tune, you forget your words. You're so nervous about doing good that you end up doing badly...

On vulnerability

Being vulnerable is about being unfiltered in the expression of your feelings and thoughts. When you're sad, when you're happy, when you have a burning thought, you express it. However, being vulnerable doesn't mean being an asshole who spews out profanities or crude comments or viciousness. Being vulnerable, or true unfiltered expression, is calm because your feelings and thoughts flow cleanly out. There's no mental acrobatics required...

On using simple language in conversation

We use language to communicate our ideas and feelings to another person. Whether I'm trying to explain the concept of a flying car (an idea) or how groggy I feel in the morning (a feeling), the goal is to transfer what's going inside you and put it inside someone else. You want them to understand the idea you have or feel the feeling you felt; language is the bridge away from loneliness. When language succeeds...